{"id":4808,"date":"2022-01-27T21:17:33","date_gmt":"2022-01-27T21:17:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theforesightcompanies.com\/?p=4808"},"modified":"2022-01-27T21:17:41","modified_gmt":"2022-01-27T21:17:41","slug":"watch-your-language","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theforesightcompanies.com\/blog\/watch-your-language\/","title":{"rendered":"Watch Your Language!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Deathcare\u2019s Confusing Terminology<\/strong><\/p>\n

Funeral Service is not alone in seeing changes to the terminology we use every day. Just like airline stewardesses have become \u201cflight attendants,\u201d secretaries have become \u201cadministrative assistants,\u201d and waiters and waitresses are now \u201cservers,\u201d we have progressed from \u201cundertakers\u201d to \u201cmorticians\u201d to \u201cfuneral directors\u201d and even \u201cdeathcare professionals.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bodies no longer lie \u201cin repose\u201d or lie \u201cin state.\u201d We prefer \u201cvisitations\u201d and \u201cfamily farewells.\u201d Hearses have become \u201ccasket coaches\u201d or \u201cfuneral coaches.\u201d \u201cTombstones\u201d gradually became \u201cmonuments and markers.\u201d Today, they are now \u201ccemetery memorials.\u201d<\/p>\n

We no longer \u201cretrieve the body,\u201d we now \u201cremove the remains.\u201d And for those who feel \u201cremains\u201d sounds too cold and uncaring, they use \u201cbringing the loved one into our care.\u201d<\/p>\n

We avoid the term \u201cashes\u201d yet \u201ccremains\u201d never really took hold. The proper term is now \u201ccremated remains.\u201d It is interesting that those who despise the term \u201chuman remains\u201d for a body have no problem with the term \u201ccremated remains\u201d after that same body is cremated. Such is the nature of changing terminology in a changing society.<\/p>\n

Remember the 1980s?<\/strong><\/p>\n

But unlike most other businesses, some of our language is regulated by the federal government. The Federal Trade Commission\u2019s Funeral Service Rule requires that we in the industry use terms that may be antiquated or ones we may not like. Because the Rule was promulgated in 1984, our terminology is stuck in that decade.<\/p>\n

Yes, I said 1984. There was no such thing as cell phones, wi-fi, websites, GPS, or email. Ronald Reagan was the U.S. president, gasoline cost $1.10 per gallon, an average single-family home sold for $86,000, and the average salary was $21,600.<\/p>\n

In 1984, HIV was discovered as the cause of AIDS. Apple ran its first commercial for the Macintosh computer during the Super Bowl XVIII, and a man named Alex Trebek took over as the host of a game show called Jeopardy.<\/p>\n

Follow the Rule!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Non-compliance with the Funeral Rule can result in thousands of dollars in fines, costs in both time and money getting back into compliance (if you join the Funeral Rule Offenders Program), and a damaged reputation if it becomes community knowledge that your firm violated a federal law.<\/p>\n

You would do well to review your General Price List (GPL) to ensure that the language used in the six mandatory disclosures matches the FTC language word for word. According to the FTC website:<\/p>\n

The General Price List (GPL) is the key stone of the Funeral Rule. It must contain identifying information, itemized prices for the various goods and services that you sell, and other important disclosures. The GPL enables consumers to comparison shop and to purchase, on an itemized basis, only the goods and services they want.<\/em><\/p>\n

Despite the sign on your building and what your letterhead might say, on the GPL, your firm is called a \u201cfuneral home,\u201d not a funeral \u201cchapel,\u201d \u201cmortuary,\u201d or \u201cfuneral service.\u201d The people you serve must be referred to as \u201ccustomers,\u201d not \u201cclients,\u201d or \u201cfamilies.\u201d<\/p>\n

The itemized prices for 16 services that you provide must also be listed using the exact language mandated by the Funeral Rule. For example, a \u201cviewing,\u201d is not a \u201cvisitation.\u201d You \u201ctransfer the remains\u201d to the funeral home, you don\u2019t \u201cremove\u201d them or \u201ctake them into your care.\u201d It\u2019s a \u201cfuneral ceremony,\u201d not just a \u201cfuneral.\u201d It\u2019s a \u201chearse,\u201d not a \u201cfuneral coach.\u201d<\/p>\n

The Cost of Confusion<\/strong><\/p>\n

And maybe that last one is not a bad thing. Sometimes our language can get a little too fancy for our own good. Many years ago, I was completing the arrangements for an elderly gentleman. As I went through the prices for each service the family selected, I used the more sophisticated term, \u201cfuneral coach.\u201d The widow stopped me and said, \u201cWe don\u2019t need one of those.\u201d Immediately, I wondered what weird mode of transportation she had in mind. His pickup truck? Farm or ranch machinery? \u201cWe don\u2019t need one of those, she said, \u201cWe\u2019re doing just fine.\u201d<\/p>\n

Funeral coach, life coach, football coach\u2026 get it? She thought a funeral coach was some kind of grief counselor who would \u201ccoach\u201d them through the funeral process. And she felt the family was coping just fine. It was on that very day that I ordered our firm to \u201cun-sophisticate\u201d ourselves and use the same language our community used. Every person in our town (your town, too, I bet) calls the transportation a hearse; and so we did, too.<\/p>\n

What About the \u2018Rental Casket\u2019?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Many firms offer service packages, whether they are discounted or not. Regardless, the FTC says that you must indicate which services are included in each package and that the terms you use should be the same terms the FTC requires on the rest of the GPL.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you can call your \u201crental casket\u201d anything you like. \u201cCeremonial casket\u201d seems to be quite popular, though it may not accurately convey what that means. The FTC has nothing to say about that because the concept of renting a casket for a viewing prior to cremation was unheard of in 1984.<\/p>\n

Nor does the FTC specifically mention \u201cpre-need.\u201d It has since ruled that the Funeral Rule applies to all service arrangements, at-need and pre-need. But as for terminology, you are free to call it \u201cadvance planning\u201d if you so desire. Beyond that, prices for pre-need services must be presented just like in an at-need arrangement and must utilize the FTC language.<\/p>\n

Cut Out the Fluff<\/strong><\/p>\n

Using the FTC mandated language does have at least one benefit. Cutting down the flowery language can prevent unnecessarily lengthy GPLs. Paragraphs explaining how important funerals are, how caring your family-owned firm has been for however many decades, and how you don\u2019t want families to spend beyond their means go generally unread and simply take up more space.<\/p>\n

Even inserting a line about providing the price list in accordance with federal law (which will be seen as blaming the government for making this more complicated) isn\u2019t really necessary, and skeptical consumers might see it as sarcasm\u2014\u201cIf it weren\u2019t for the government requiring us to do this, we would rather hide our prices from you.\u201d A GPL that is eight to 16 pages in length cannot be consumer friendly.<\/p>\n

In our attempt to sound professional and contemporary, sometimes, the terminology we use can be confusing to the people we serve. That is why you should watch our language!<\/p>\n

Memento Mori January 2022 featuring Curtis Rostad<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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